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0:43But there are three big ones that she mentioned and write. Three big issues that always seem to end up in the counseling room. Depression, anxiety, and anger. Depression, anxiety, and anger. These are the things that usually, in one shape or form, are involved, and many times all three, but anger, anger. I want to talk to you about a patient heart tonight. A patient heart is one that can overcome this rage within. And a patient heart is not a weak heart. Sometimes we might think of patience as kind of one of those more weak disciplines. On the contrary, a patient heart is a strong heart. And any study like this, if we're going to look into the anger, into the nature of anger, is inevitably going to have to, we're going to find ourselves in the very character and nature and disposition of God.

2:01And as we study that, we realize that God's patience is an incredible power. And so I want to learn how to put on a patient heart, a heart like that of God's. And so, where do we go to learn patience? Do we go to the school of perfection? Do we learn patience in times of smooth sailing, in times of cordial relationships, or times when everything is going our way? Is that a good recipe, a good place, a good school for learning patience? No, it really isn't. We learn patience in the school of imperfection, in the school of the fallenness of humanity, the school.

3:01Where we deal daily, weekly, monthly with sinful humanity, we learn patience in a fallen world. It's the only place we can learn it. It's the only place where the need is put on a display. You've probably heard me say this in somewhat of a jokingly manner in times past. When I got married, I discovered I had a problem with selfishness. And marriage will do that. You know, you move in, you realize, oh, okay, so we got to start living together and figuring things. So, okay, yeah, I do have some problems with selfishness that I hadn't seen before.

3:45But when we had children, that's when I realized I had a problem with anger. There's nothing that will expose, or certainly exposed, my impatience more than when I was trying to shepherd childish behavior. And it's not that it was all bad, it's just childish. And sometimes shepherding, you know, you've got an adult mind and you're trying to shepherd a child mind into maturity, and so it is a good recipe for expressions of anger. What is anger? One definition, it's a strong feeling of annoyance, a feeling.

4:30As you look biblically, it certainly involves emotions, but when you're looking at the character of God, it's something more, it's a subtle disposition. It's not just an emotional outburst, more than just a feeling, it's a mindset. And the reality of God's anger and wrath is real. Anger can also be known as wrath. Another definition says it is an intense emotional state involving a strong, uncomfortable, and non-cooperative response to a perceived provocation or hurt or threat. And so it's when you think about the wrath, when you think about the wrath of God, and you think about the wrath of man, anger can be good because God displays anger.

5:31And it is right. There is a place for anger. To have an emotional response to that which moves you to defend something of noble value, that is a virtue. To defend, to be angry at that which wants to destroy that which is good is a virtue. In fact, being indifferent to something that can harm that which is good. To be indifferent or could care less, that's a moral problem. When you don't care about what should be cared for enough to go to defend. So, no anger is not godly. Not having any anger is not godly, but explosive anger is not godly either.

6:28An outburst of anger is not godly either. So, here we are, and we're looking at no anger is not godly, but outbursts of anger is not godly either. So, we need to learn how do we control, how do we understand anger, our own anger, God's anger, our own anger, and how do we control it? How do we put on this patient heart? And tonight, I want to set before you really a practical plan for overcoming these sinful outbursts of anger, a practical plan for overcoming sinful outbursts of anger. So, how do we begin? Well, first of all, we really need to understand several truths about the nature of anger. You need to understand anger before you're going to be able to control it, bring it into reign. And so, that's what I wanted to do tonight: just set forward some. Truths about your anger, I want you to consider, and then a practical plan for controlling your anger. So that's all we're doing tonight. I'm going to set before you several truths about your anger, and then a practical plan for controlling your anger. I want to understand and control anger. So we'll talk about a patient heart. Patient heart talk to you about the truth. So you're putting on this patient heart. I want you to consider some truths about your anger. First of all, as we read our Bible, we realize that anger, the wrath of God, is a reality. In fact, Romans 1.18 says this. For the wrath of God is revealed from heaven against all ungodliness and unrighteousness. The wrath of God is revealed. It is being revealed. God does not try to hide his anger. In fact, he does the opposite. He wants to reveal it.

8:39He is revealing his anger against all ungodliness and unrighteousness. And this is evident. This isn't hard to see as you start reading through the Bible. What happens the moment Adam and Eve do what they were not supposed to do and they eat of the tree? What happens? Curse, a fall. God curses the ground, curses the man, the woman, and death enters into the race. You see, right off the bat, his wrath against that disobedience is revealed. It's revealed in a curse, death in every individual since then. That is a revelation of God's indignation against sin. You just read a few chapters later, and you've got a worldwide flood when everybody's heart has grown to the point of just doing what is evil, only evil always.

9:39And so a flood comes. That is, again, God's wrath being revealed. Read a little further, you got Sodom and Gomorrah. Again, God's wrath being revealed. And then we come to the cross. You want to see a very vivid picture of the wrath of God being revealed against sin and sinfulness. And there it is on the cross. Horrifically revealed. That is God's settled disposition of what needs to happen to every single sinner. That's the wrath that's revealed from heaven.

10:31And as you realize, certainly by the time you get to the end, I mean, certainly you realize hell is a reality. Hell is another eternal expression of God's wrath. So God is all about revealing that which displeases him, revealing his wrath, his anger, against that which displeases him, sin. He doesn't try to hide it. In fact, Jesus made it very clear, and John the Baptist and those preachers fear him who is able to destroy both body and soul in hell. Jesus doesn't apologize. He's giving you a reality. What you need to fear is the wrath of God. You need to fear his displeasure. The wrath of God is a reality. The Bible doesn't try to hide it, and it doesn't try to apologize for it.

11:31Your wrath is also a reality. I don't think I need to go into much detail with that. The Bible is very clear. Search your own heart. You will see. You will know. If you're remotely honest, your wrath is a reality. But the difference between God's wrath and your wrath is very. Significant. The difference between God's wrath and your wrath is very significant. You see, the thing about God's wrath is that it's constructive. It's an indignation against something. It is constructive to bring about a different outcome. Your wrath, apart from God, is destructive. It destroys.

12:27God's wrath has a constructive goal in mind, too, and that is to reveal Himself, to reveal something to be avoided. God wants justice, for instance. So He is indignant with all forms of injustice. And He always will be. He is and He always will be. You see, God's wrath seeks human repentance, and so He restrains Himself. His wrath is not vindictive, it's instructive to learn, to teach, so that you will avoid that which He despises. Your wrath, however, is full of vengeance. It's usually in retaliation, it has revenge, it aims to punish, it aims to destroy, kill, murder, push, death, disintegrate, to deliver yourself.

13:31God's wrath responds to human sin. God's wrath responds to oppression, human helplessness. Your wrath responds to unhappy situations, unpleasant people or unpleasant circumstances. But God's wrath responds to something that's wrong, out of order. God's wrath is not just blowing off steam, it's instructive, it's relevatory. So God acts in wrath. When He acts in wrath, He acts so that people can understand what He is angry about, so that they can respond, so that they can change their way. So He doesn't just disintegrate everything to blow off steam, but He waits so that people can understand exactly what it is that you're so displeased about. Because the wrath of God is revealed. God is revealing Himself, and He wants people to know what angers Him. But your wrath, apart from God, is selfish, impulsive. It doesn't like to wait for people to understand. It doesn't like to wait for you to understand, oftentimes.

15:00Immediate action. Your anger says, act now. Now. God's anger, wait until they can understand what is being revealed. See, God's is instructive, it's relevatory. Our wrath, your wrath, my wrath, apart from God, is sinful, destructive, venting. I want to talk to you a little bit about the perfections of God's wrath and his patience. And inevitably, as you're start to understand God's anger, we need to understand the character of God. God's wrath is something that oftentimes we seem to be very ashamed to talk about in Christian circles. And I've heard it. Yeah, yeah, God is a God of wrath. That's the bad news. Well, let's move on to the good news. Well, there's so over and over, many people seem to apologize for the wrath of God as if somehow it's inconsistent with his goodness. The wrath of God is not at all inconsistent with his goodness.

16:17It is as much of a perfection as his love and his holiness and his goodness. His wrath is a perfection of his. It is a settled disposition that is perfect. God is not ashamed of his anger. And neither should you and I, if we're instructed by Scripture. Listen to what Deuteronomy 32, 39. God says, This, See, now I am He. And there is no God besides me. It is I who put to death and give life. I have wounded, and it is I who heal. And there is no one who can deliver from my hand. Indeed, I lift up my hand to heaven and say, as I live forever. If I sharpen my flashing sword and my hand takes hold on justice, I will render vengeance on my adversaries and I will repay those who hate me.

17:26It's interesting. You don't see God swearing like this. And he says, I lift up my hand to heaven and say, as I live forever. God is not ashamed of his anger. He wants the world to know what he is indignant with all day long, all the time, everywhere, because it's a characteristic of him. In fact, God would be in defect if his wrath was. Absent. God would have a defect if there were no wrath in Him. You see, indifference to sin is moral defect.

18:11As I said earlier, if I am indifferent to someone who is harming somebody else or stealing from them or worse, if I didn't care, I would have a serious moral problem. You see, to not care when care is needed is not virtuous, it's defect. I love how A.W. Pink says it. Indifference to sin is a moral blemish. And he who does not hate it is a moral leper. How could he who is the sum of all excellency look with equal satisfaction upon virtue and vice, wisdom and folly? How could he who is infinitely holy disregard sin and refuse to manifest his severity toward it? How could he who delights only in that which is pure and lovely not loathe and hate that which is impure and vile?

19:15The very nature of God makes hell as real a necessity, as imperatively and eternally requisite as heaven is. Same, basically, the nature of God. Makes hell as much of a reality as heaven is. And it's the wrath of God because he is indignant with that which harms, that which is not good, that which steals and destroys. He is indignant with that. Some definitions. Listen to this one. The wrath of God is eternal detestation of all unrighteousness.

20:04The wrath of God is the displeasure and indignation of divine equity against evil. Maybe just here's a simple one. The wrath of God is the holiness of God stirred into activity against sin. The wrath of God is the holiness of God stirred into activity against sin. Well, that's God's wrath. Now let's talk about the perfection of God's patience. And God's patience is not antagonistic with this anger, cooperates with it. Perhaps the best or a good expression of the patience of God is in this expression being slow to anger. Slow to anger.

21:00Exodus 34, 6, when God is revealing himself to Moses. We read these words. Then the Lord passed by in front of him and proclaimed, The Lord, the Lord God, compassionate and gracious, slow to anger. That's who he is. Slow to anger. That's the patience of God. Abounding in loving kindness and truth. He's merciful, compassionate. Sometimes we don't really talk a lot about the patience of God because we lump it in with the concepts of his loving kindness or his mercy. But there is a difference. There is a difference worth mentioning.

21:48As one Puritan, Stephen Charnock, defines patience, he says it like this. Mercy respects the creature as miserable. Patience respects the creature as criminal. Do you see the difference? Mercy respects the creature as miserable. Patience respects the creature as criminal. Mercy pities him in his misery. Patience bears with the sin which engendered the misery and giving birth to more. So when you're thinking about mercy, it's dealing with. The person as in a pitiful state when your patience, the patience of God, is looking at the individual as a criminal and being slow to anger toward the criminal.

22:52So here's the definition of patience. Divine patience, and again, this is A.W. Pink, divine patience is that power of control which God exercises over himself, causing him to bear with the wicked and forbear so long in punishing them. Patience of God is that power of self-control that God has over his anger, causing him to bear with the wicked and withholding punishment, to be slow to anger. Another Puritan says this: Men that are great in the world are quick in passion and are not so ready to forgive an injury or bear with an offender as one of lower rank. It is a lack of power over that man's self that makes him do unbecoming things when provoked. A prince. That can bridle his passions is a king over himself as well as over his subjects. God is slow to anger because great in power, he has no less power over himself than over his creatures. You see, a patient heart is a powerful heart. Put it in the context of God here: infinite holiness, dreadful sinfulness, intense hatred toward all that which destroys, and a moral obligation to deal with it. All of these things, and yet a restraint to withhold all that power back. That's the patience of God. That's a strong heart.

24:57That's a powerful heart. The patience of God is that which causes him to sustain great injuries without immediately avenging himself. Again, A.W. Pink, the patience of God is that excellency which causes him to sustain great injuries without immediately avenging himself. So patience is his power of self-restraint. That's what patience is. Power of self-restraining. Self-restraint, and that's what we need. And this is good. You think about it: if God were to just destroy the wicked immediately, at first offense, it's over.

25:50But if he were just to destroy you and me, then his self-control would not be revealed. You see, God is about revealing himself to the objects of his grace. And by the way, if you're here tonight, you're welcome to be one of his objects of grace. Just ask him. Turn to Christ, repent of your sins. Invitation goes out to you to be an object of his grace. But God is about revealing himself to the objects of his grace.

26:27And he does that by bearing with the wickedness of man, including yours and mine. William Gernall, back in the 1600s, I'm quoting some old folks tonight. Let's go back 1660. Let me read to you a quote from William Gernall. When I consider how the goodness of God is abused by the greatest part. Of mankind. The greatest miracle in the world is God's patience and bounty to an ungrateful world. If a prince has an enemy in one of his towns, he does not send them in provision, but lays close siege to the place and does what he can to starve them. But the great God that could wink all his enemies into destruction bears with him, as is at daily cost to maintain him, maintain them. Well, may he command us to bless them that curse us, who himself does good to the evil and unthankful.

27:43But don't think, you sinners, that you shall escape God's wrath. God's mill goes slow, but grinds small. The more admirable his patience and bounty now is, the more dreadful and unstoppable will that fury be which ariseth out of his abused goodness. Nothing smoother than the sea, yet when stirred into a tempest, nothing rageth more. Nothing so sweet as the patience and goodness of God, and nothing so terrible as his wrath when it takes fire. You see, one reason why God allows the sin to remain in the flesh is that he may exhibit his long-suffering towards us.

28:492 Peter 3:9 says this: The Lord is not slow about his promise, as some count slowness, but is patient toward you, not wishing for any to perish, but for all to come to repentance. You see, God is all about revealing himself. And these, both his wrath and his patience, are moral perfections that are part of his goodness and self-revelation. Third truth about your anger that I want you to consider tonight is the necessity of controlling your anger. The Bible is very clear about controlling your anger.

29:39But the necessity of it is seeing, number one, that your anger is a destructive force that will destroy every relationship you hold dear if you do not learn how to control it. Time and time again, I see impulsive anger. A person destroy the very thing he or she is wanting to preserve. That outburst of anger attacks even that which they're trying to achieve. And time and time again, I have heard people say things to people that they should never be said. I have heard husbands say the things to wives that should never, ever be said, and vice versa. What a wife would say to a husband that totally breaks every vow they made before the altar. It is a disintegrating force. You must learn to control your anger. James 1:19 says, This, this you know, my beloved brethren, but everyone must be quick to hear, slow to speak, and slow to anger. Sounds like God, right? Slow to anger.

31:06For the anger of man does not achieve the righteousness of God. You take off in hostility, take off in that impulse of rage. I can assure you, the Bible promises you will not bring about that sweet condition that God desires. It is a destructive. It is an obliterating force. Second necessity for controlling your anger. We could be here all night on listing now. I just can give you two. Second, your anger puts the devil on display. That is what he is. When you rage, you are imaging Satan.

31:56His name is Adversary. And so when you have these outbursts of anger, you are imaging the very adversary of God. You're not imaging God. Rage. But your self-restraint, your self-restraint against those who mistreat you, those who speak evil against you, and everyone else who doesn't. I mean, a lot of times I've seen people just fly off the handle and people didn't even do anything to provoke it. You just happen to be at the wrong place at the wrong time and just, boom.

32:41But your self-restraint against those who mistreat you and everyone else puts God's perfection on display. God is slow to anger. He has a strong heart that is able. To restrain his wrath. So we need to seek the grace to imitate this godly excellency. In fact, Jesus said it like this in Matthew 5:48, Be perfect, even as your Father in heaven is perfect. And do you know what the context that He speaks that in? It's in the context of loving our enemies, blessing those who curse us, doing good to those who hate us.

33:39You know, look, if God bears long, if He can bear the multitude of this world's sin, and if He can bear that, surely you and I can get over the puny and limited injuries that other people cause us. Don't you think? Let us imitate His divine nature. Let us put Him on display by having a patient heart like His. So, how do we do that? I want to give you a practical plan in a few minutes. This is not going to be too earth-shattering, but very practical, and I hope it'll be memorable. If you follow the Acronym wrath. Can you spell wrath? W R A T H. That's it. That's where we're going to go. W R A T H. So we'll just go down that, so hopefully you remember it. First of all, wait. Wait.

34:49When you come to one of those moments where there's this, when you hit one of those angry moment situations in life. And you'll, you'll, every once in a while, believe it or not, they'll happen, right? They happen quite a bit, don't they? Large and small. But when you hit one of those angry moments in life and are tempted to lash out in rage or even entertain rage in your heart for even a moment, first wait. Oh, just wait.

35:26Just wait. You know, you will, you'll still have a chance later if you want to go and blow a gasket later. That opportunity is always going to be out there. But just wait. Wait. Wait for your own sake, first of all. Wait for your own sake. Psalm 25, 3 says, Indeed, none of those who wait for you will be ashamed. Those who deal treacherously without cause will be ashamed. In other words, those who are reckless will be. But those who wait for the Lord, none of those who wait for the Lord will be ashamed. I can assure you, you will be ashamed of your outburst of anger because it's not going to bring about any kind of righteousness at all.

36:18And you're going to be faced with another issue. If you explode on somebody, then you've got a couple of avenues. Number one, you can repent and make it right. Or you're going to have to blame somebody else and justify your anger, your outburst. Or you're going to have to excuse it some way. You're going to have to either do what Adam and Eve did. You're going to have to blame somebody else, or you're going to have to have some fig leaves to cover you up. And that's basically what happens. So, for your own sake, you will be ashamed.

36:59It's just how you deal with it. Then, I would say, if you have those outbursts of angers, then you repent and make it right. But it's easier not to have that. You'll learn very quick. If you really do your repentance plan really well, you'll do that a couple times, and you're going to say, you know what, in the future, I'm just going to avoid this mess because repentance is hard. It's embarrassing, and it's more work. But if you'll learn to control your anger, then you won't be ashamed. So, wait for your own sake, but also wait for people's sake.

37:311 Corinthians 13, 4 says, Love is patient. You know what that means? Love is waiting. That's what that word means. Love is waiting. Love is waiting for people. Wait for them. Wait for God to work in them. Wait for them. When you respond quickly, you're pushing them away. It's a response. It's not that controlled indignation that seeks a relationship with the person. It is more of a venting a so wait for your own sake. Wait for people's sake. Third, wait for God. Just wait.

38:12Psalm 25:5 says, This, lead me in your truth and teach me, for you are the God of my salvation. For you I wait all the day. You are the God of my salvation. You are the one who is going to deliver me from this situation and from every situation. You are my Savior. And so I'm going to wait for God's deliverance. So wait. And I can just say, whenever you have that wait, that's the first thing. Wrath. If you're dealing with wrath, your own wrath, and you feel that wrath, first word, wait. Can you say it? Wait.

39:00And I mean, wait. A long time. Wait. Second, remember. Remember. Remember God's mercy. Remember God's mercy. Remember, God is slow to anger. Remember what you need if you are in that situation. You need mercy. Remember what your offender needs. Mercy. Remember. So wait. Remember God's mercy. Third, ask. Ask. Wait. Remember God's mercy. And ask. Ask God for intervention. Before you act at all, before you go further in your thoughts, take it to the Lord in serious prayer. Sort through it before the Lord. Sort through this. Like, Lord, okay, help me understand this situation. Help me understand what's going on in my own heart. Help me understand what I am trying to protect, what this rage that is going in my heart. Help me understand what I am trying to protect. Because a lot of times, what it is, it's like we're trying to protect a disordered love. An outburst of anger comes out. Out because we've got our love in the wrong place and we're trying to protect something. Maybe it's our reputation, maybe it's our name, maybe it, and or who knows what you're trying to protect.

40:43Ask God to help you see the situation. Seek truth. Seek truth in the situation. Lord, help me understand what really happened. Don't let my mind just race to really bad conclusions or uncharitable conclusions about somebody else or assume the worst. Help me seek the truth. Help me seek understanding. Sort all this before the Lord. Have that long prayer time and let this go on for days. You know, if you can drag this rage out from the very moment and just drag and take it before the Lord, ask Him, help Him understand the situation and why it happened and what was going on. And then ask God to show you exactly what the right expression of love looks like.

41:37Okay, Lord, help me understand the situation. Help me understand what really happened. Help me understand why it happened. Now, Lord, I need you to show me what would be the best expression of your love going forward. Help me understand. Help me know what the next step is. In other words, God, how can I be you? Used by you in this situation. After all, I'm your servant. I want to display you. So show me. We're dependent upon him too.

42:13So wait for your own sake. Wait for people's sake. Wait for God. Remember God's mercy and ask for God's intervention. And then fourth, turn. Turn. Turn away from all expressions of fallen human anger. You know where that goes. Turn away. That's that repentance. That's that turning. Turn away. Turn away from that human anger that wants to take matters into your own hands. Turn away from that way. Turn. You see, righteous anger turns to God for help.

43:03Unrighteous anger just runs off and does what is right in your own eyes and then justifies it, defends it. But righteous anger turns to God for help. Finally, honor God. Wait for God. Remember God's mercy. Ask God for help. Turn away from your sin. Turn to God for help. And then honor Him. Honor Him. Be dutiful. Just be dutiful. Turn to God glorifying expressions. Turn away from the sinful expressions. Turn to God glorifying expressions of patience, of righteousness, that display faith in God. And trust. Trust God. Trust His redemptive work in your own life, His sanctifying work in the whole situation. And trust God for the salvation in your circumstances. You're not going to be able to bring it out. You're not going to be able to deliver yourself. You'll be able to make it worse.

44:19But if you really want God's deliverance, you need Him. We're dependent upon Him. Let me just say this. As we look at all this, patient heart, there's truths about your own anger. And then I set before you a practical plan for controlling your anger. Wait for God. Remember God's mercy. Ask for God's intervention. Turn away sinful inclinations. Turn to God and then honor him in the situation. Honor him in your thought lives. But now, I mean.

45:00See the opportunity in all this. There are opportunities in your angry moments. Turn this whole thing around now. Stop playing defense. Start playing offense. Every situation that tempts you to lash out in rage is an opportunity to walk with God and glorify Him in a very unique way. Take territory. There are opportunities. And if I was John Piper, what would I say? Don't waste your angry moments or something like that. But see the opportunities of your angry moments. Don't waste them.

45:45Just look for the right path. That's all I have. Got a couple of minutes, questions, thoughts? Yes, in the back. Could you explain the difference between the zealous of Phineas and Numbers 25 that brought David from the Lord, but then the other, the zealousness of like James and John and the guy that brought Christ from the Lord? Yeah, I think the issue is what is the priority of love? What's being loved? It's not the raw emotion so much, but what is the object? Phineas is really desiring God's honor. And so, and that's consistent with.

46:31With God Himself. He is jealous for His name, for His honor. He is a jealous God. He will be exalted because it's good for Him to be. It's not a self, he's not an egotistical maniac that needs anything from anybody. It is good, and His honor and His holiness is something to be treasured and defended. So that was in Phineas. Now, James and John is like, they seem to be, oh, those Samaritans, we'll fix them. They didn't, and so you see this carnal aspect, they didn't reach it. So then there's a response that is of a fleshly, worldly nature.

47:21And I don't know exactly what their love was, but it seemed to do something like, should we call down fire? And how dare they not, how dare they tell us no? That kind of thing. So that I would put, it's about the object in those cases. I see another question over here. Yes, sir. How do you reconcile not letting the sun go down on your anger, but also awaiting and drawing out the right time out? How do I reconcile not letting the sun go down on your anger and what?

48:00Waiting and praying on the savage gave it to you. Yeah, well, you know, yes, I think the exhortation there about not letting the sun go down on your anger is to work out your situations as best you can in a most timely manner. Now, I don't think that there is, there are some settled indignations of God that go on forever, that aren't going to be, you know, there's some conflicts that are a little more epic, but in terms of resolving hostility, you could do that. You may have to work out the details later, but we are not to harbor. I think what certainly a general principle there, and a big picture one, is don't harbor any anger in your heart for moment. You quickly move that out. It may take some time to sort through what reconciliation looks like, but in terms of I am not going to be angry at this person, I'm not going to go, I'm going to give it up to the Lord even if details still have to be, even though you've got a long process of reconciliation ahead. But quickly, remember we started the series about what defiles the heart. You know, that potty water that comes out of the heart, those evil thoughts, that's what defiles.

49:30And if you start deliberating on these thoughts linger in your heart, these angry thoughts, this human rage, and you start nursing that and nurturing it and then and then building thoughts and compliance, I think what he's saying there, get rid of all that right at the very inception of it as quickly as possible. Other question, thought, observation? Yes, ma'am. I think what you're saying there is wait before you react in an anger, not wait before you directly.

50:07Yes, yeah, yeah, for sure. Wait. Yeah, in this context, yeah, wait. Wait before you get angry. Yeah. All right. Yes. You're not saying that you can't be angry. You're just saying, like, these are ways to control it. So, like, for example, something bad has happened, like, whatever happened, like, somebody, you're driving home and something went through my life crafty than you, right? Like, bro. Like, you know what I mean? Like, I'm not for me personally, I'm not going to be like, oh boy, like, I'm all excited. Like, I feel upset. Like, they feel it. But what you're saying is The plan, like, I don't have to fly off the handle and start beating up the guy.

51:06I can still be upset about the context and the situation, but you know, walk through these things and honor God, but you can still be angry that we live in a fallen world, unsaulted Lord do something back to place. If we get a nod of those things before God, right. Someone can run into your car and you can respond in sinful anger, or you can be angry about the situation and not sin. And that's what I'm saying.

51:34Yeah. Yes. And I think one way to think about it like this: like child training, going back to when I discovered, okay, I got a problem with this. Is it right for a father to be indignant over childish behavior, whether it's sinful or just childish behavior that needs to grow up? Is it right for a father to be indignant over that and angry over that? Nobody wants to say anything. Yes, it is. In fact, there's something wrong with you if you don't. But how you meter out, just like God is angry with sin, yet he controls that and it moves him to discipline. To act so that the object can learn. And so, in children, you should be angry over sinful misbehavior in your children. And you're to always be. But angry is not just outbursts fly off the handle. That's what we associate anger with, is just this emotional deal. The Bible teaches that it is a settled indignation against that which is foolish or wrong or sinful. And so a father should. Now, he should be moved, but for the well-being.

53:12And so, discipline, well metered out, thought through carefully, is to be done, but not in a sinful outburst. And so, and that's what God does. He disciplines us for our goodness because he's indignant with foolishness and folly and sinfulness. And so he disciplines. But it's a controlled thing. It's not vindictive. It's not him venting himself. It is him helping us in the way. So, yeah, so. One more. I guess two more. Go ahead. I was sorting to mention that. I think there's a condition here in the evening. Well, when it comes to self-discipline, we're to be disciplined over our emotions to the point that our temperament, there's a difference between being emotional and having maintained temperament. And our temperament is what is to remain even healed under the self-discipline of emotion. Right. Yeah. It's a temperament, yes. Yes, sir.

54:33Yeah, you're going to go through life. Things are going to you should be angry about, but you shouldn't sin. And that also warns us it's very easy to sin, it doesn't really well and I think that's that's the bottom line with uh a lot of us who like, okay, well, yeah, I'm I'm angry, but it's with the righteous anger. I'd say, you know, I'd say 90 to 99% of the time, our anger is of a sinful nature, unless you've got a really strong heart and you've really been sanctified.

55:09But really, I I think don't trust your heart in those angry situations and be quick to to put off every form of anger, but but also put on, like, just wait, remember, ask, turn, because there is a duty in that situation to to glorify God even in when you get Someone runs into your car, uh you are who knows what occasion God is bringing up in that situation. And it's an opportunity not to waste to honor God. Um so. Well, it's 7-15. Yes, sir, one more word. Or maybe one more word, and then you can pray for prayer us out.

55:50Years, many years ago, I was driving with my mom back from Franklin back to Homer, and they had to cross the Mississippi River. And I'm coming on that bridge, and I had what's called a lifetime fever. And there used to be a red light right there at the end of the bridge, and I did not notice it. And I hit this guy, and I got out. I could tell he was angry. But it turns out he was also a Christian.

56:21And I immediately confessed, which I understand you're not supposed to do, supposedly. Oh, I'm so sorry. And he just like, you could see his face completely changed. And we exchanged, you know, everything. And a cop came up who was, you know, I certainly deserved a big ticket. Turns out he's a town councilman, and he looked at me. I said, That's okay, you leave. Just, you know. And so, you know, of course I had pay advantages, but actually it wasn't that much damage. And the thing is, I should have gotten the gotten a ticket, but because he was a Christian, he controlled his anger. You really bless, you know. And I think in situations like that, you know, you need to be aware of that. Yeah, there are opportunities.

57:11When you've been put in a situation to justly be angry at someone and you handle it, that's an opportunity to glorify God. To what? Honor God, absolutely. The H. Okay, let me pray. Heavenly Father, thank you again for your goodness and for the evening and help us to leave here, Father. Really taking these to heart and help us to deal with our anger in a way that pleases you. And help us to be indignant about that, which we need to be indignant about. And help us to bridle our passions and bring them under submission to you so that you may be honored. Change our hearts. And go with us now. In Jesus' name, amen.